Whether you are a stay-at-home or a working mom, taking care of your kid is one of the most challenging duties ever! We’re always exhausted trying to manage the endless calls of motherhood and we tend to forget about what WE NEED. We feel like our household cannot function without us, and we sometimes feel like nobody gets it, and we want somebody to remind us to take care of ourselves before we start diving into a sink hole. At some point, you will have to realize that you should prioritize some time for your own self-care needs.
It’s only normal to have big expectations, and be a dreamer and a planner for your whole family, but if you don’t learn to practice self-care, you will never be able to achieve all those visions you have. Because taking care of yourself makes you a better parent, and a more patient and loving one!
This last month of dealing with sleep deprivation due to my teething toddler and some personal stress has led me to realize that I put everyone else’s need above my own and made me re-think how I need to take care of myself before I break apart.
So I decided to share with you 5 tips or ideas that we all need to remember in order to be happier mothers to our little monsters:
Eat Regularly & Hydrate:
It is funny how we try our best to feed our kids the healthiest of meals but we forget to apply it to ourselves. I tend to forget to eat and drink water sometimes because I am so swamped in my kid’s daily activities that at the end of the day I am so worn out. You need to dedicate some time to have a proper meal and snacks every 3 hours no matter what. If you don’t have help around the house, try to involve your little one with the cooking procedure, he will enjoy it and you will get things done faster.
Get Dressed and Get Out:
I know you would much rather stay in your Pjs all day, but this habit is not healthy. Wake up and get dressed, even if you know that whatever you end up wearing is going to get stained at the end of the day, it is worth it and it puts you in a better mood. Also try to make it a routine to go out once a day either with the kids or without them to get some fresh air.
Schedule your personal workout time, and get your body moving! (Running around the house with your toddler does not count). It is not selfish to take time to exercise! I personally love doing yoga, as it puts me in a better mood, and relaxes my mental state while squeezing in a good workout! (Why not try Aerial Yoga for a change?)
See Your Friends More Often:
I know you barely have time to see your friends and you’re comfortable being anti-social for the moment, but try to make some time for it before it’s too late! Don’t disconnect from your whole social environment, because isolation can quickly creep in; going out for coffee to vent or even inviting your friends over when the kids are asleep can put you in a better mood for sure! Bottom line: Friendships are crucial even when our schedules are overloaded.
Get Some Sleep:
I know that this is easier said than done. But whether it’s taking a 15 min nap while baby naps or is at the nursery, or going to sleep earlier at night, just try to do it sometimes because your body and mind need it! You will wake up with more energy and you’ll (hopefully) be able to handle whatever tantrum comes your way!
Your children are watching every move you make, and want to be like you, so try to set a good example for them. It’s normal to lose it some days more than others but it’s also important to remember that we are not perfect and we are trying to be the best we can. And we can only achieve that when we take care of ourselves.